Facebook: 'Why not give your ex another shot?'

are you f-ing kidding me?!

if facebook friends suggestions 'freak you out' then maybe you aren't ready for the internet yet.

get over yourself.

As always, your articles never fail to amuse. I realize Facebook doesn't have a mind of its own, but I did find it momentarily unnerving when it managed to dredge up my former stalker, whom I filed a restraining order against, as a friend suggestion.

My only complaint is with Facebook's apparently loose interpretation of "Do not show me this request again." When I click that little X it means I NEVER want to see that suggestion again...not that it should bring it back up in a few months in the apparent hopes that I've changed my mind. Sorry, little intelligence engine but not everybody in this world is meant to be "friends".

Really? The editors at this garbage website felt it necessary to go with this joke of a story? "I can't handle a .25" by .25" picture of somebody being mixed in with the with spam ads on this internet page.  I'm so distraught...."

What nonsensical garbage.  How did this writer think this was a good idea? Heck, how did she even come up with the idea? I bet you five bucks it was b/c she had this happen to her, freaked out, at 5 gallons of ice cream while lamenting that she has gotten fat and fugly, which is why the guy in question left her in the first place, then decided to write about it, while pretending it has nothing to do with her.

She also got her facts wrong, clicking on the 'x' next to the picture will only have it go away temporarily.  They will come back from time to time.

I had this happen with two different ex girlfriends, both of which I dated way back in 2002! They were the only two to pop up on my friend suggestion whenever I signed in for about a week, before someone told me I could just push the "x" button so they wouldn't pop up again. Really annoying, and really creepy.

Actually, this just happened to me last week. My boyfriend of 6 yrs broke up with me a couple months ago and just as I am doing great and happy to be rid of him, he pops up on my friend suggestion list for the first time ever. I fell for it, and clicked on his profile against my better judgement only to find that he started dating a girl 10 yrs younger than me almost as soon as he walked out my door. Not only that but he's posted half a dozen almost naked pictures of them together. I felt sick and it really threw me back to the anger I felt right after the break up. It showed me that he had lied about a lot of stuff right up to the end. Anyways, he's disgusting and I've stayed off facebook as much as possible since then.

I had this happen with an ex of mine but what was really weird is that I clicked on his name and it said that action wasn't allowed. So I searched his name and didn't find it. He either doesn't have a Facebook account anymore or he's blocked me....either way why would he come up as a suggested friend? It makes me wonder if the same thing has happened to people that I've blocked.

Facebook also works on a six degrees of separation notion....if two or more of your friends are friends with someone, they will continually pop up in your friend suggestion list.  Annoying, but that's the way it is.  I too wish there was a way to tighten up their controls.  Every few days, I go through hundreds of suggestions.  It takes forever, and so many are people I have said no to time and time again.  They need to fix this, fast.

Agree with the first poster though...seriously....it's a picture.  If you are someone who is only happy believing that the jerk who cheated on you is miserable and can't tolerate the reality of, you know, REAL LIFE, then you have bigger problems than a picture on Facebook.

Why are people "shocked" by these suggestions? As the article said, it's just something generated from computer data, so potentially anyone you've ever been linked to for just about any reason could be a suggestion. I've had exes suggested and also people from high school that I couldn't stand. Did I get offended at Facebook's suggestion? No. I hit the "X" next to that person and moved on. People are too sensitive about everything these days.

I pretty much understood when my ex-wife showed up. We have a number of mutual acquaintances, went to the same college, and stuff like that. But I really got concerned when her father showed up as a suggestion. The last think I'm going to do is friend that [expletive deleted].

This article is a frigging joke...Everybody knows facebook recommends people based on the friends u have...If you don't want to suggestions of old BF or GF's I suggest not associating with anyone that may be friends with that person...Dont blame facebook for your poersonal life...Whoever wrote this article and supports posting it for the world to read you should be ashamed of yourselves...you represent everything wrong with American culture...and really need to get a life!!!!

OK, so where did I miss the part where FaceBook stuck a gun to these people's heads to make them add their ex's as friends?

As Joan Rivers says, "Oh Grow Up!"

...Also your making us all dumber for reading this...and that IS your fault.

if your wife or girl friend has left the relationship and has been involved with some one else and has had sex move on its all about trust. that goes both ways.

I have an account on FB, but honestly people are obsessed with it and on it way too much(I see some of the same people posting something on there every minute of the day)! What's the big deal? I mean you're going to see old friends and GF/BF's who didn't end things on very good terms as well as enemies, so get over it!

This kind of stuff will affect you only as much as you let it, imo.

My estranged sister keeps popping up in my suggestions list and I find it amusing that I am probably popping up in hers. I feel as though I am in yet another game of chicken with her.

It speaks more about the childishness and insanity of relationships. Maybe we should review the behavior rather than the technology that it passes through.

Sometimes things from the past should be kept in the past. While it doesn't bother me to see someone from my past pop up as a friend suggestion I may think twice when I'm looking for someone from my past. There was a boy from my past that things didn't end too well and I always felt bad and guilty how I hurt him. So after years of searching on the internet I found him the other day through Facebook. I always knew I should have been a detective. Anyway he is not the same person that I remember and I wish now that I had not found him. Maybe it's better to have a memory and not know the truth than to find the truth and have your memory destoryed. So this is some advise from someone to be careful when you try to go looking up someone from your past to leave the past dead.

Awful article. Obviously a person and their boyfriend/girlfriend would have been friends on Facebook and most likely had many of the same friends. After a breakup, its likely they de-friended each other, but since they have the same friends Facebook will make the suggestion that they become friends, seeing as they have so many mutual friends. It's Logic.

The author of the article makes much too big a deal out of it, and really, if you can't handle Facebook get off the internet. It is the most tame social network out there, and it's pathetic this is the biggest complaint the receive "newsworthy" attention. Facebook has done quite a remarkable job amping up it's privacy settings.

If anything, ask Facebook to add the feature, "Remove from friends and never be notified again" to their options, don't write this article complaining.

I had a friend who was my roommate in college. When it looked like she and her boyfriend weren't going to make it past graduation, she started hitting on everyone else's boyfriends, including mine, which she managed to steal. I disowned her. Twelve years later, she showed up on Facebook as a potential friend. I denied her application. I don't want her around the next time she faces being alone.

I can't even see why this is news. "Facebook suggested someone I had a bad relationship with, how dare they bring up that old wound."

It is a good thing that people never do that. Friends you have not seen in a while will never say, "Wher's Jeff?" or "How's Jill?". And luckily when we break up with someone, we never see them in public again or turn up any reminders of them in an old picture.

This is another example of people getting very detached from the real world.

I absolutely LOVE Facebook.  Growing up in a military family, I moved a lot.  I never really felt like I had roots anywhere.  My husband actually introduced me to Facebook and it has literally changed my life.  I have reconnected with old friends that I might never have found otherwise.  I've even participated in a Facebook reunion of old elementary school friends.  It has given me a greater connection to family that l don't see as often as I'd like.  Facebook is even responsible for bringing together some long lost siblings in my family.  If a few unwelcomed "friend" suggestions pop up from time to time, it's still a small price to pay for the network of friends & family that I've found.

A Facebook Fan & Possible Addict

Facebook? MySpace kicks Facebook to the curb dude! IN every aspect!

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My ex was satan's daughter.... NO WAY!!

I think it's creepier when an ex actually requests to be your friend...

Ha! When I first started using facebook, I accidentally checked the box to send a friend request to an ex I most certainly didn't still want in my life. He accepted the request with the remark "you are too gracious" and then i was too embarrassed to admit it wasn't on purpose. Since then we've actually become decent FB friends, if not real-world friends. But then recently another ex surfaced and tried to friend me. Here's what happened... http://blog.beliefnet.com/everydayethics/2009/06/facebook-is-it-ok-to-friend-an-old-flame.html